I’ve learned – that you cannot make someone love you. 

All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. I’ve learned – that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. I’ve learned – that it takes years to build up trust,  and only seconds to destroy it. I’ve learned – that it’s not what you have in your life 
but who you have in your life that counts.
I’ve learned – that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something. I’ve learned – that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do. 
but to the best you can do. I’ve learned – that it’s not what happens to people 
that’s important. It’s what they do about it. I’ve learned – that you can do something in an instant 
that will give you heartache for life. I’ve learned – that no matter how thin you slice it, 
there are always two sides.
I’ve learned – that it’s taking me a long time  to become the person I want to be. I’ve learned – 
that it’s a lot easier to react than it is to think. I’ve learned – that you should always leave 
loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them. I’ve learned – that you can keep going long after you think you can’t. I’ve learned – that we are responsible for what we do,  no matter how we feel. I’ve learned –  that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I’ve learned – that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place. I’ve learned – that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. I’ve learned – that learning to forgive takes practice. I’ve learned –  that there are people who love you dearly, 
but just don’t know how to show it. I’ve learned – that money is a lousy way of keeping score. I’ve learned –  that my best friend and I can do anything  or nothing and have the best time. I’ve learned – 
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.IMG_3860
I’ve learned – that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me 
the right to be cruel. I’ve learned – that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. 
Same goes for true love. I’ve learned – that just because someone doesn’t love you 
the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.


I’ve learned – that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had 
and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.


I’ve learned – that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
I’ve learned – that your family won’t always be there for you. It may seem funny, 
but people you aren’t related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. 
Families aren’t biological. I’ve learned – that no matter how good a friend is, 
they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.


I’ve learned – that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. 
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself. I’ve learned – that no matter how bad 
your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.


I’ve learned – that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, 
but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned – that sometimes when my friends fight, I’m forced to choose sides 
even when I don’t want to. I’ve learned – that just because two people argue, 
it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other And just because they don’t argue, 
it doesn’t mean they do. I’ve learned – that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions. I’ve learned – that we don’t have to change friends 
if we understand that friends change. I’ve learned – that you shouldn’t be so 
eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever. I’ve learned – 
that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.


I’ve learned – that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt 
and you will hurt in the process. I’ve learned – that there are many ways of falling 
and staying in love.
I’ve learned – that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves 
get farther in life. I’ve learned – that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most. I’ve learned – 
that your life can be changed  in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you. I’ve learned – 
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, 
you will find the strength to help. I’ve learned –  that writing, as well as talking, 
can ease emotional pains. I’ve learned – that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.

I’ve learned – that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being. I’ve learned –  that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon. I’ve learned –  that although the word “love” can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used. I’ve learned – that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.
wearing: Top: Topshop, Skirt: Topshop, Shoes: Zara, Trench: UNIQLO

I had to take a break…VERY LONG break from blogging. I hope I haven’t disappointed any of you. I promise to be better!


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Over time our personal style evolves and grows up with us. When Nike asked me to stye the Nike Air Force 1’s for it’s 30th anniversary,  I couldn’t help but reminisce about my tomboy days in Jr. High and High School, and in that light I had to say YES. Not one summer went by without me feeling the need to get a fresh pair of white on white AF1’s (we called them Uptowns in NYC). 


Wearing: Nike Tank | Urban Renewal Denim Shorts | Zara Sweater | Nike White on White AF1

It was always an immediate need for me as soon as summer rolled around. These shoes went with everything, and of course I couldn’t wear them unless they were crisp and white. There were no exceptions. 

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My personal style has evolved quite a bit from my adolescent years, so styling these AF1’s was quite an experience. In my  opinion, classics are classics for a reason. 


Wearing: Zara Top | Zara Pants | Zara Belt | Nike White on White AF1

Such classics as a boyfriend blazer, a little black dress or a tailored pencil skirt,  can be paired with just about anything and the AF1’s are no different. Now and again, it feels good to let loose, kick off those sky high 6 inch heels, and slip your feet into a nice pair of fresh kicks. 

Special Thanks to the Nike Team! 

“If You really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price”


I am not a fan of cold weather so I am dreading the upcoming winter. I was happy to get one last chance to soak up some sun in this Topshop Romper because layering season is here and it’s a bitter-sweet feeling because I will miss summer dearly but I am super excited for Fall Fashion. Emphasis on FASHION 🙂



We should ALL live by the above quote btw. It’s crazy to expect others to value you if you don’t value YOURSELF first!!


Wearing: Topshop Jumper, Steve Madden Platform Heels, Aldo clutch


Don’t over think yourself out of something special. Not everything needs to be controlled. You can’t get so busy looking for ‘more’ that you miss what you’re really supposed to see. If you find a man willing to be honest about his mistakes or a woman strong enough to be secure in her flaws, you have somebody special and somebody worth working for. Don’t get caught up in looking for perfect because that search will fail you every single time. You can’t be scared to let yourself be happy. You can’t be scared to step up and take a chance. 

Stop worrying about things you can’t control, there’s no way to connect the dots going forward. It takes going through some serious things for us to really get what we need. Without the lies you wouldn’t appreciate truth. Without the games you wouldn’t appreciate genuine intentions. Without the test you wouldn’t know your strength. Stop justifying the reason you have a wall up and ask God for courage and discernment so your heart doesn’t have to hide. Heartbreak is apart of life, not the end of it. Stop using failed relationships as excuses to be cold, pessimistic, and selfish. Nothing about love is easy and you’re not the only person who’s ever been hurt before. There’s somebody out there wondering the same things you’re wondering, feeling those same emotions that you’re feeling, and they’re scared just like you are. So who’s going to step up?

In reality, we all want the same things. We all want somebody who isn’t like everybody else, somebody who isn’t doing what everybody else does, and somebody who isn’t thinking like everybody else thinks. No woman wants a follower in a man. No man wants a groupie in a woman. We all want the same things but we’re all stuck playing the same games because nobody wants to step up. Somehow, we’ve all become content with losing emotionally, it’s like we’re so used to the pain that happiness has become a myth. It would be a beautiful day if being a free thinker, a genuine lover, and strong enough to handle hurt ever came in style; but it won’t because asking people to step up for love is asking too much, right?


Wrong, regardless of what most think, love shouldn’t be exhausting. It shouldn’t leave you feeling stressed out, less than, and unappreciated. Love is supposed to be free, natural, and almost a complete release from the monotony and routines of life. Real love won’t leave you drained, it won’t leave you depressed, lost, or distraught. Love is a healer, love is a friend, and love is a protector. Loving isn’t easy, it’s a challenge, but when it’s good, it’s a treasure. Real love won’t break you, it will build you and it will bring out the best in you. Stop letting bitter people define love for you, be willing to experience it for yourself, be willing to step up!

Now of course you don’t have to force things, if it’s not your time then it’s just not your time. Don’t put to much pressure on things just for the sake of having “something.” If the relationship isn’t fulfilling, incredibly passionate, and fun then it’s a waste of time. Sure good things come around, but “good” doesn’t always last. Be the person who wants a great thing that keeps getting better.


 Expect the process of building something special to be a challenge, expect some hard days, but in the end, expect it all to be worth it. After all, the movies can’t be the only place where things go right, can they? Deep down, we all have our own love story to live and we can’t let life’s journey steal it from us. Sure it’s tough trying to open up, but be willing to risk your happiness before you ever settle for hiding behind your fears. You have to want more than “Damn y’all still together”; don’t stop giving until you hear, “Damn y’all inspire me to love harder.” So who’s going to step up?


I came across this beautiful piece of prose written by Rob Hill who is an Author, Motivational Speaker and Life Coach. You can see more of his writings HERE. They are all great reads.

Wearing: Topshop Deep V top, Topshop Jogger Trousers, Sam Edelman Wedge Sandal, Vintage Clutch.




Think that it’s fun, that you’re guided,
  and that all is well.


Think that there’s time, that life is easy,
  and that the best is yet to come.


Think that the reasons that elude you
  will one day catch up,


that the lessons that have stumped you
  will one day bring joy,


and that the sorrows that have crippled you
  will soon give you wings.


Think that you’re important, that you cannot fail,
  and that happiness always returns.


And think that you’re beautiful.


Wearing: Top: Urban Outfitters, Shorts: Topshop, Heels: Sam Edelman, Clutch: ALDO

So FASHION’S NIGHT OUT is this thursday September 6, and I am super excited. There will definitely be a whole lot going on in NYC and although I haven’t yet made up my itinerary for the night, I am really looking forward to seeing all the amazing street style. Will you guys be in NYC FNO && what are your plans?!!

Have an amazing week G(ems)!!!